Is Relationship Coaching right for me?
Seeking out relationship coaching is an individual choice. There are many reasons why people come to coaching. Sometimes it is to deal with long-standing relationship issues, other times it is in response to unexpected changes in one's life such as a new relationship, a move, children, divorce or breakup. Working with a coach can help provide insight, support, and new strategies for all types of relationship challenges. Relationship Coaching is right for anyone who wants to improve their relationship (whether that is your mate, family member, co-worker, child, friend, boss or any other significant other).
Do I really need coaching? I can usually handle my problems, and I have friends and family who give me advice.
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other relationship difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support. In fact, coaching is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you are in life and making a commitment to change the situation by getting advice and support from someone who is completely objective. Coaching provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.
How is Coaching different than Therapy?
The purpose of coaching is to assist people in goal attainment. All you need is a goal to improve your relationships. While coaching can be very therapeutic, and sometimes offers therapeutic strategies, it is NOT therapy. If we feel at any time during your coaching that you would benefit from seeing a therapist, we will assist you in finding one in your area. It is fine to have coaching and therapy concurrently, but not with the same professional.
What is coaching like?
Every coaching session is unique and caters to each individual and their specific goals. It is common to schedule one or two sessions a week, where each session lasts around 30 minutes. You may desire more sessions or more time during particularly stressful times. There may be times when you are asked to take certain actions outside of the coaching sessions, such as reading a relevant book or keeping records to track certain behaviors. It is important to process what has been discussed and integrate it into your life between sessions. For coaching to be most effective you must be an active participant, both during and between sessions. Here are some things you can expect out of coaching:
- Practical advice
- Compassion, respect and understanding
- Perspectives and feedback about persistent patterns and negative feelings
- Help in identifying your emotional triggers and learning new ways to deal with them
- Learn how to respond rather than react
- Real strategies for enacting positive change
- Effective and proven techniques and ideas
- Support, validation and encouragement
Is coaching confidential?In general, the law protects the confidentiality of all communications between a client and coach. No information is disclosed without your prior written permission.
However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:
- Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The coach is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
- If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The coach is required to notify the police.
- If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The coach will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.
Email Dr. Lyn if you have any more questions! firstname.lastname@example.org